I once wrote a review about dating Indonesian girls and where to meet them. You can still read it here: Where to meet Indonesian girls? Most of the information on the review is still valid, but it certainly needs an update on the world of online dating through websites or social apps such as Badoo, Indonesian Cupid, Tinder, WeChat, Skout, Beetalk, etc.

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If you are looking for a great girl in Jakarta, online dating is by far your best chance. 90% of the girls there are looking for a stable relationship. Another 9% is looking for money. And maybe less than 1 percent is looking for a one night stand (not the hottest girls usually).

The fact that they are looking for a stable relationship does not mean they want to get married straight away. It means they want to feel a long-term relationship is possible. For this reason, it may be more difficult for you to find a date if you are not staying in Indonesia and if you do not speak Indonesian.

Depending on which website or which app you use, you can pretty much chat with any type of woman you could think of: Students, employees, executives, single moms, etc from any ethnicity or religion. There is such a diversity that it would be hard to generalize. To give you a better understanding, I will describe the specificities of each dating app or website below:

Bumble: To find the most educated girls
Bumble has been called the "feminist" dating app because girls have to message guys first (They have 24 hours to do so).

It is currently my favorite app in Jakarta because, even though it doesn't have thousands of profiles like Tinder, most girls using it are educated and they have good jobs. There are also many foreign girls using it, especially in Bali.

➝ Smart and educated girls
➝ High proportion of foreign girls (especially in Bali)
➝ No need to message the girls first (great feature for those who hate having to make the first move)
➝ There is a video call feature within the app

➝ Only a mobile app so you have to type your messages on your mobile
➝ Not more than a couple hundred profiles in Jakarta, many of which are already on Tinder

IndonesianCupid.com: For guys who are just visiting Indonesia

Indonesia Cupid is a more traditional dating website that is part of a large network. Its sister websites include FilipinoCupid, Muslima (for dating Muslim girls), Thai Cupid, Vietnam Cupid, etc. It is an excellent site for those who are not in Indonesia but who are interested in chatting with local girls.

Most Indonesian girls on IndonesianCupid are looking to meet foreigners, even if they are not living in Indonesia. Because of this, they won't turn you down if you say you are currently in the US, in Europe or in Australia.

Girls on IndonesianCupid are mostly from the middle class. Typically, you'll chat with employees, teachers, nurses, etc.

Since it is a website and not a mobile phone app, I find it much easier to write messages or browse profiles compared to Bumble. Even if you use it for a month or two, it is still easy to see which girls are online among those you've chatted with before.

You can register here: Sign-Up to Indonesian Cupid for Free. I recommend you to update to the premium version though (only 25$ per month) as it will allow you to send an unlimited number of messages. It will also give you the edge compared to the other guys in terms of visibility.

➝ The best dating site in Indonesia if you are a tourist. Ideal for arranging dates prior to visiting the country. Girls won't mind if you are not living in Indonesia and if you are older than them.
➝ Between 500-1000 Indonesian girls online at any time, but thousands more who were active in the past week or month (you have filters to do that).
➝ Possibility to look for girls in other countries (Thailand, Philippines, etc)
➝ Good website interface, easy to use and fast.
➝ Fast chatting application
➝ Mostly serious girls who are interested in relationships
➝ Detailed profiles

➝ The free version is too restricted (not a problem if you can afford 25$)
➝ No mobile app
➝ Many girls have limited English proficiency (especially outside Jakarta)

Tinder: For younger guys living in Jakarta
Tinder used to be the best dating app in Indonesia, but this is no longer the case. There are so many things I hate about it now that I wouldn't know where to start.

The biggest misconception about Tinder is that it is a free app. While this is technically true, in fact, its whole business model revolves around making you pay as much as possible.

One of the ways they can do that is with their "Boost" feature:
A "boost" allows you to be the top profile in an area for 30 minutes
A boost costs around US$4 and it can be addictive. You will get more matches at first, but as soon as you stop, you will get nothing. So you'll keep boosting your profile, again and again, matching with girls who are often not really interested to chat.

If you don't use any boost from the start, your profile will only be shown to usually less-attractive girls who swipe right/left a lot (because first, they will see hundreds of guys who boosted their profiles).

➝ You can "like" (swipe right) up to 50 profiles per day for free
➝ Easy to get several matches every day (but they won't meet you if you are a tourist)
➝ Thousands of Indonesian girls are using it

➝ Too many girls just looking for attention (or who are advertising their Instagram account)
➝ You cannot see which girls are online
➝ You cannot chat with a girl if you haven't matched with her already
➝ You cannot like more than 50 girls per day (or you must pay)
➝ You can only see girls around you (unless you pay). If you stay abroad, this means you cannot chat with any girl in Indonesia before you arrive.

Read my article: 10 Reasons You Are Failing at Tinder

Badoo: For guys who can speak Indonesian
Badoo used to be the best dating website in Indonesia but it is clearly not as popular as it used to be. It still has a large number of users though: I checked on 15 December 2016 at 7pm and there were 522 women online in Jakarta (vs 537 on Indonesian Cupid). They also have a mobile app (called "Hot or Not"). 

Badoo attracts 99,9% of Indonesian girls, from all backgrounds. You can filter girls by age, location, status, body type, etc. More than half the girls can speak English and many are interested in meeting foreigners. Online prostitution on Badoo is, unfortunately, a problem. Many "girls" on Badoo are in fact pimp looking for clients.

➝ Lots of girls online
➝ Fun, colorful website interface with large photos (but also more slow to load)
➝ Both a website and an app with geo-localization
➝ You can send messages to 5 girls per day for free and you "like" as many as you want
➝ Cheaper than other websites

➝ Privacy concern (they sent advertising emails to all my contact on my behalf saying I was inviting them to join Badoo)
➝ Many, many prostitutes and fake accounts
➝ Many girls can't speak English well
➝ Because it is cheaper, there are more guys on Badoo. This means it is harder to get girls' attention and your messages may be ignored. You can get seen/read before other guys but you need to pay extra money (even if you are already a premium user).

SeekingArrangement: For rich guys who want to easily date younger Indonesian girls
This dating site is quite unique and controversial. All girls are considered "sugar babies" who are willing to go on a date in exchange for gifts, money, travels or dinners. All guys are "sugar daddies" (not necessarily old) who are willing to sponsor the girls.

I met a few Indonesian girls, all students, who were using it. They told me the thing they liked the most was free travels so they could flood their Instagram accounts with pictures.

This site is good for guys who want to have a younger and beautiful mistress in Asia. Since money is involved, it is also not hard for a wealthy guy to find the perfect match.

➝ Much more girls than guys so you are guaranteed to meet someone
➝ Many upper-class and classy girls
➝ Girls are easy to talk to, friendly, and they will often accept going on a date
➝ Straight-forward

➝ A bit expensive. It is probably cheaper to try Indonesian Cupid first.
➝ There are some real sugar babies looking for chemistry, but also some prostitutes

Instagram: For guys who have an interesting life
Yes, Instagram can be considered a dating website in Indonesia. I know some guys who've met dozens of girls using it.

Of course, you need to create an Instagram account and to upload interesting pictures regularly. If you are an expat who visits nice restaurants and hotels, it shouldn't be too hard to add at least a great photo every two days.

You can then follow some Instagram accounts of girls you like and write comments on their pictures.

➝ Free
➝ There are more girls on Instagram than on any other dating websites (especially in Indonesia)
➝ You can search for girls who have special interests using the location or tags (for instance, if you want to find a girl who went to the Djakarta Warehouse Festival, you can search the tag "DWP 2016").
➝ It is easy to find a topic to start a conversation (just comment a photo)

➝ You need to create and maintain an interesting Instagram account
➝ Many girls are not single or not actively looking for a boyfriend
➝ Time consuming

Skout (Mobile app and dating site)
Skout is similar to Badoo but it does not have as many girls online. The ads are quite annoying so I didn't like using it.

WeChat (Lots of prostitutes)
WeChat has a "look around" feature which allows you to add girls located within a few kilometers from you. If they accept your invitation, you can start chatting with them.

Many ladyboys and prostitutes use that feature so it can be quite annoying if this is not what you are looking for. You will also probably receive a lot of invitations from other guys. Girls using this feature do not always speak English very well. It is popular with the Chinese community but your chances of getting a reply is low unless you speak Chinese.

➝ Free
➝ Location based

➝ I don't think you can meet a normal girl using it.

Beetalk (Only if you speak Indonesian)
Beetalk users are mostly Indonesian and young. It has a "look around" feature as well which is quite invasive as it tells you the exact position of the people around you. If you use it in popular malls like Grand Indonesia or Central Park, it will probably tell you a list of persons within a very close range, sometimes a few meters only.

Few girls using Beetalk speak good English so it is more appropriate for those with a basic knowledge of Indonesian. It is a good app but not the most effective for foreigners.

➝ Free
➝ Location-based
➝ No competition from other Westerners

➝ Very few girls who can speak English
➝ Not many replies from girls
➝ A lot of prostitutes

Tagged / Hi5 (Mobile app and website)
Tagged and Hi5 are the same service since they merged in 2011. It used to be one of the most popular social networks in Indonesia but it is struggling now. It is still a relatively interesting website to try as the number of Indonesian users is quite large. I would say that girls on Tagged are usually a bit older: They made their Hi5 account 10 years ago and they haven't closed it yet.

Adult Friend Finder
This is a paying hook-up website popular with swingers and those looking for one-night stands. I never used it but a friend of mine did and he met several open-minded couples. He also managed to meet a few single girls but it is rarer.

Note that the website is currently blocked by the government so you'll need to download a VPN to access it. I've written an article here Best VPN in Indonesia to help you with it.

➝ If you are not looking for dating but for sex, this is the best website to use
➝ Number 1 hooking website in the World

➝ 90% guys and 10% girls so you need to make a really neat profile to succeed. Being handsome would help.
➝ You won't get very far with the Free Version so you'll need to buy a premium membership
➝ Blocked in Indonesia: You must use a VPN to access it freely.

Paktor (Works best if you are young, rich and Asian-Chinese)

Paktor is one of the happening apps among younger Indonesians and particularly Indo-Chinese. Originally from Singapore, it is quite similar to Tinder with a few additional features.

➝ You know the exact distance between you and another user
➝ A lot of interesting profiles (upper-class girls, students)
➝ Fun interface
➝ You can hide some Facebook friends to find you

➝ The free version sucks
➝ If you are an older guy, you will have a relatively low rate of success

All these dating apps and websites are free but you have to pay if you want to get some VIP features. For instance, becoming a paid member will generally entitle you to send more messages, to see who clicked on your profile or to be seen first by girls.

There are probably some scammers too so you should naturally always make sure the person you are talking to is real. I would recommend asking for the girl's facebook or skype.

There are other services that I haven't tried but they might work well. If you have used one of the followings to find a date in Jakarta, it would be nice if you could write a comment about it below:

OK Cupid: Popular dating website (same group with Match.com and Tinder) with a few hundred girls in Indonesia

Happn: This app will tell you if you've crossed paths with girls during your day. It works well, but almost all girls there are already on Tinder/IndonesianCupid. It's fun to have, though.

Zoosk: One of the most popular dating apps in the world but I read some negative reviews about their privacy policy so I did not want to try it.

Ask.fm: Very popular social media in Indonesia, mostly with the younger crowd. It is not a real dating website but it is used as such by many Indonesians to make friends or get a date.

Wavoo is an Indonesian dating app that just started. It does not have a very large database of users at the moment.

Setipe is an Indonesian dating website that could be promising but it is still new and I encountered some problems to register.

Photo Credit: The photos are from Kucluk Oye.

39 comments to '' Online Dating Sites & Apps In Indonesia (2020) "

  1. Hello Thibaud, some of your points are right and spot on. If i may add some inputs from my experience with those application. I'm a young Indonesian careerwoman with expat partner.

    1. Tinder
    The it application in my social circle. The facebook of online dating. I started playing after introduced by a friend and eventually met my expat partner. This application attract crowds from middle class to wealthy Indonesian, attractive looks, have a good education = able to speak English, have a stable income.
    If you are looking for an Indonesian girl for sex, relationship or having fun together, you can find It here. I know of many expat/indo couple met from this app, as for sex, my partner friends always have at least one new girl a week. But, for relationship, this is your best bet to find someone who is not interested in your skin (bule!) and money (provided you select them carefully)

    2. Badoo & Skout
    For me, It’s too much scam(I quit after the 5th scam) and some that are genuine already have Tinder. So what's the point?
    On the other hand, I know of several expats that got one night stands from this app and one who progress to friends with benefits. For stable relationship, I only know of Indonesian couple.

    3. OkCupid
    The Myspace of Online dating. This was the most popular online dating before the era of Mobile dating app. A friend of mine told me about her "Bule Hunter" friends, who utilized this site to hunt expats in Jakarta and were quite successful. Now they moved on to the apps.

    1. So, I'm going to Indonesia for some fun. Without the wife knowing that is. How can I use this app best? Fictive account or?

    2. Make a fictive account on IndonesianCupid only... Don't use Tinder or Badoo as they connect to your Facebook...

  2. I think OKCupid is the best dating site. We can check the potential background and personality thingy.

  3. i'm not educated and yet i'm on tinder. omg, something's wrong with me :O

  4. ocupid has shit of algorithm, users cannot accept the message

  5. Date in asia. Free.

  6. Online Dating ExpatDecember 21, 2015 at 1:59 AM

    My rankings for best dating apps in Indonesia:
    Tinder: No1 for intelligent, free-spirited, independent women
    SKOUT and Badoo: Many prostitutes or girls who "don't like stingy guys". Still interesting but you'll probably need to pay to get some extra features.
    We Chat: Prostitutes and ladyboys
    Beetalk: Most underrated dating app: Free, lots of normal girls from all walks of life. To work you just need to add as many girls as possible in your vicinity. I get about 10% acceptance rate. Then chat. Big problem is that many girls cannot speak good english on Beetalk.
    The other dating sites: scams.

  7. I'm surprised no mention of tagged... it's working quite well... also I like Skout... Badoo is the best dating app in Indonesia but only if you can pay for special features ...

  8. Don't try Setipe.com, it's a scam. First you have to pay, and then you discover you can only get terrible matches. Useless.

  9. Anyone has tried the Indonesian app AkuJomblo?

  10. Online dating in Indonesia is ruined by all the prostitution. Now on Badoo you have at least 50% of the girls who are looking for money. The rest is either ugly, fat or they wear jilbab.

    No more dating apps for me, I just go meet girls in malls, nothing easier you just need to smile and say hi. Most girls are very friendly and will give their numbers easily.

  11. Interesting. Me, a Norwegian Viking with blond hair and blue eyes, was looking for a girl in Indonesia, and no scammer. You feel free to write me an email: trucccer@yahoo. com (yes, 3 times c )

  12. Badoo is not a dating site, it is a prostitution site!

    1. I just intalled Badoo to my phone, prostitutes are ok, if price tag is not too high and girl is SYT.

  13. Tinder and Badoo/Blendr has the best results and the app doesn't fuck around.
    Example, Paktor, after some initial success, suddenly made all the girls who like me only unlockable if I pay to see them. I know this after realizing it for some time. And non paying users are put very rarely for someone think view.

    Back to Badoo/Tinder, both r great especially with Tinder's superlike and accurate location filter(which makes it more focused but it means a finite selection) while Badoo's people nearby is really far reaching and the 'star' helps you keep track of great profiles with updates if they add photos and every 2 days you get a 'featured' freebie which gets you easily 10-25 views in 10mins. It also notifies you that someone likes you with a blurred photo while tinder doesn't.

    I personally use badoo more, partially do I don't have to on my GPS/data/wifiscanner which tinder insists it has to be on n I have to disable it again thereafter

    If you decide to pay, both apps are great.


  14. I tried SweetRing recently, its a Taiwan based dating apps. Its quite good to be honest,you have to pay of course to get several features but i think it worth the price.
    Many girl used it because its free, but as a man you have to pay. its quite cheap so i dont mind to try it, i used it for a month and i met 3 girls already, so you know everything have a price.
    Girls like this apps because they think you are serious (because you have to pay to chat with them of course lol)
    so if you want to pay to get a match, this apps is pretty good.

    Good luck guys!


  15. Dateinasia.com

    I met my wife here. She is gorgeous! Intelligent, well educated, good cook, fluently in English and Spanish. She came from lower class but she made her self beyond compare. We r moved to England now and she is getting accepted in to Cambridge for her masters degree.

    Try it and it is free.

  16. new site from a guy i know, just online works through google maps: https://www.temandancinta.com

  17. If you're in Jakarta for more than a month then you don't need online dating. It's one of the easiest cities in the world for an expat to get a local girlfriend, provided you look half-decent.

    Indos tend to be very friendly and sociable folk, and provided you're polite and poses halfway decent chat, you can meet girls easy in malls, cafes, bars even supermarkets.

    Just be aware local girlfriends tend to require you to have deep pockets. They'll expect to be wined and dined every weekend and I've yet to hear of one prepared to put her hand in her pocket for anything. You may get the odd local trinket, but you'll be expected to return that x100.

    Suggesting a quiet night in watching movies on a weekend probably won't cut it either. She'll suddenly be busy and off out to one of the usual haunts looking to trade you up for a more sociable model.

    1. The girls you meet in nightclubs and the girls you meet online are very different. Many girls you meet in nightclubs have an expensive lifestyle and they might expect to be "wined and dined" as you say... On dating sites, 80% of the girls are down-to-earth Indonesians who have jobs/occupations and are only looking for a boyfriend.

    2. I have met few girls online yes they were all money oriented but all had a BF for sure .. they come to you only for that extra money which their BF's done provide .. if you are thinking about a real girl who is trust worthy in jakarta according to me it is the hardest as I met one who was married to a person for 16 years and 16th year both separated and she got married or is in a live in with another and she is pregnant with him with in a year .. man that was crazy and she has a 16 year old daughter :) .. I realized .. getting trust worthy girl in jakarta is hardest, but the girls are cute for 1 night stands

    3. Maybe you should broaden your horizon....From what I see, you haven't met a lot of nice girls yet....

  18. hi, I just install paktor in my phone,and I receive alot of messages from girls,but I need to pay about 250k a month to replied that messages, does those messages really from a girl or computer bot?
    is 250k a month really worth?


    1. Sorry I only tried the free version so I can't tell you... I think some of the messages you receive are sent by Paktor to encourage you to subscribe .. If the girl is sending you long, enthusiastic sentences, you can assume it's a bot and not a real girl... 99% of the time, Indonesian girls will only say "hi" or "how are you". If you decide to pay the Rp250,000, please come leave a feedback here bout whether it's worth it or not...

  19. Hi, I'm looking for a fuck buddy or one night stand, preferably 'bule', no string attached, no personal info sharing, no drama, and no money involved. Just sex! for the sake of my curiosity ^_^
    I'm a healthy 35yo woman. Should you a healthy 'bule' interested, do contact me at letswearnothing@gmail.com

  20. Hi there, You've done a fantastic job. I will certainly digg it and personally suggest to
    my friends. I am sure they'll be benefited from this website.

  21. But do you actually assume your girlfriend goes to be happy
    with JUST that?

  22. She's lucky
    I hope i can find the real love someday��

  23. There seems to be an invasion of young "Pick Up Artists", aka Affective Tourists in the past 5 years. I've had several girls asking me directly "Are you a sex tourist?" THen I had to pretend I'm here for work...

    In China also, they start to rebel against the sexpat crowd: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjW374SuOho

  24. Tried to get a woman in Jakarta for a short term relationship, not exactly for one night or sex only. Used DateInAsia. Used it 2 years ago successfully in Philippines for finding a sexing travel mate. Today it became a real pain in the ass. They block you for anything suspicious, e.g. I sent a link to my photo in external page twice (because of their annoying photo acceptance policy) and I got banned. Then they have sophisticated bots to detect any new account so you need to have other IP, other photo, other SIM card etc. Then I tried to get the girls email address and using the word "email" in 2 different conversation got me banned again :) Their rules say that you cannot ask for contact information of persons that you don't know. As it is a dating site, this is rather funny. Even if I talk to them for a longer time who knows what the policy is if you ask for more than 1 girls contacts. They also have in their rules that you cannot look for girls for flirting so who knows what the administrator will think. When they ban you all work is gone. Even when it is virtually free it costs you too much effort.
    I found cca. 10 usable girls in Jakarta on DIA so it makes no more sense to go there in my opinion.
    From what I read above I am going to try the IndonesianCupid as I need to get the girl before I travel to Jakarta. So Tinder is not the way to go for me probably. If anyone has any tips for me or wants to exchange experience, let me know at jedenkluk@gmail.com.

    1. Never had problems with DIA (DateInAsia). And I am quite happy, that crooked people do have problems there. I don't want to meet fakes, scammers, etc. Why do you need multiple accounts there?

  25. Firstly, I am an Asian lady who had an European man.

  26. Because of sex tourist sites like this, the scene is getting more ruined every year.
    Now many women just write stuff like this: "If your intention is only looking for hook up, temporary travel companion when u visit asia, temporary s** buddy and s** cam or s** chat , forget me, Im not that kinda gal.Im not here for that. Dont waste your and my time."

    They are all woke up on the sex tourist, "party" thing of the frustrated french losers coming here for sex and feel bigger than what they are. Because of a few guys who want to be a smartass with his website, the whole scene gets destroyed.
    Think about when you will be 50 and want to sexpat in Asia, it wont be there anymore because you contributed spilled the beans as a 30 y old just to make a few affiliate links...

    Also, sites like that attract masses of arabs, pakis, turks etc who are even more desperate for sex than the french and italians and contribute to ruin the place. Jakarta sex scene now is already a shadow of what it was 15 years ago.

  27. errmmmm Beetalk has switched of the people nearby function a year ago or so already

  28. I am aged Asian man..interested young female travel partner as guide and advisor to visit Jakarta,Surabaya,Bali and other famous tourist spots,should know English(small skill no problem)and age should be 25 +-.I bear all travel cost and also fee give her..if any one interest mail me direct(trvl_drnkmr@yahoo.com). Waiting for a sweet reply.

  29. Tinder is pretty bad in Jakarta now. You get tons of matches but none of them reply. If they do end up replying they do so every 3 hours or end up ghosting on WhatsApp.

    In addition the pretty girls are picky so you are left with waria,,massage girls, overweight women or hijab girls lol.why do you guys like this place so much???

    1. Girls just make accounts on Tinder to get more Instagram followers... Sad but true...

      If you have money, use SeekingArrangement as you'll meet the best girls... you don't need to spend that much money, most girls will be happy if they get just free dinner or free trips to Bali...